Here is Dude #2’s take on this week’s questions:
1. Would you ever consider dating a friends ex-girlfriend?
I'd consider dating a friend's ex if and only if that friend was a c or d list friend. In other words, he is never a weekend phone call, is probably more a friend of a friend who was drafted into the extended circle, and is someone I'd lose no sleep no longer having around. As to my true friends, there is no chance I'm dating an ex.
2. If you thought a stranger was cute would you approach them and try to start a conversation?
Approaching a stranger and starting a conversation is to me the hardest thing to do as a single dude. It's a near impossibility between the hours of 7am-9am, and only slightly less unrealistic sober during the remainder of the day (for me, anyways). I find that circumstances often dictate the random conversations I end up in. For instance, I've never started a conversation with a cute girl on the subway (although I know a dude who did so and briefly dated her), but I have had them at networking things, political fundraisers and charity benefits, bars, coffee shops, a book shop (that served coffee), weddings, a concert last week, etc...
For me, it's not so much the girl I spot but a combination of how I feel when I spot them and the girl's approachability factor. It depends in large part on where my confidence lies in terms of how I look, how I feel. Also, is the girl with a large group of girls, a more approachable smaller group, or (ideally) on her own? Does she look angry at the world? Is she focused intently on something else? If her eyes are wandering the room like mine are, and there's eye contact, whether one or the other plays it off like there wasn't or not, I'm far more apt to drum up the courage to walk over and try saying hi. If we make it past hello without either of us running away, well, that's a story for a different question.
What do you guys think?