Monday, November 15, 2010

Ask A Dude: Friends & Family Edition

This week Rusty tackles issues regarding our chosen family (friends) and the family we’re stuck with.  Enjoy!

1.  When do you think it's appropriate to introduce the person you're dating to your parents?  Is it ever too soon?

When you are being introduced to your mates family, you are the outsider, which can be very intimidating. Furthermore, people tend to find reasons not to like their in-laws or eventual in-laws.

For these reasons, I would not invite a girl to meet my family unless I was sure that there was a real future with us. I don't want to meet her family and then subsequently be invited to her annoying family functions and I am sure she feels the same way. Therefore, the longer we can put off the family introductions, the better!

2.  Have you ever disliked a girl that a close friend was dating?  If so, what did you do about it?  Do you think it's OK to talk to your friend about it?

Of course I have disliked girls that my friends were dating. I currently have a number of friends who are dating or are married to people that completely suck!

Unfortunately, there isn't a damn thing we can do about it. No matter how close you are with your friend, they aren't going to listen to you. In fact, you seriously jeopardize your friendship by expressing your dislike for their miserable partner. People are blinded by love and nothing anyone can say will open their eyes.

I have had interventions in the past, where myself a few other close friends tell someone that they really need to dump who they are with...but they always fail and they are usually misinterpreted.

People usually show their true colors over time. If you don't like your friends mate, chances are that your friend will eventually open their eyes.

Thoughts?

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