Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Faceless Connections…

I came of age during the digital age.  I remember the first time I connected to the internet.  I was in fourth grade at my childhood friend’s house.  She had one of those clunky old Apple computers with the funkily shaped monitor.  We dialed-up to connect to AOL (was there anything else?) to check our email and chat with our friends.  In fact, I till have the very same screen name.  It’s been about 16 years, but I still can’t part with it.  There are certain people I would IM (instant message in case you’ve been living under a rock for over a decade), but would have never had the courage to speak to in person.  Sitting behind a computer made me brave.  Some might say it still does. 

I have had email conversations with other bloggers and blog readers that I’ve never met in person.  We have shared intimate details of our lives.  Does being “faceless” help our generation socialize?  Or hinder it?  There was a time when I wouldn’t want to tell new people (especially guys) that I had a blog.  I wanted people to get to know me organically.  Then I would go home and promptly stalk them on Facebook.  Unless you don’t own a computer, there is no way to avoid being inundated with information about the people you meet. 

There is some comfort in connecting with people who share similar interests and struggles.  Is it easier for me to type my deepest, darkest moments than it would be to sit down with you and tell you?  Absolutely.  Does that make it any less important for me to share?  I think not.  Take my Ask A Dude series, for example.  Would I approach men in  my life and ask them those types of questions?  Well, actually yes I would.  But, they most likely would not feel comfortable answering them without the cloak of anonymity.  It’s a win/win, really. 

I think what I’m trying to say, is that I feel really connected to all my readers, even though I don’t know who most of you are (other than location, of course).  I’d like to start more of a dialogue between us.  Please feel free to leave a comment or email me.  You guys know (almost) everything about me, I’d love to get to know some of you! 


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