Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Happy Bestie Day!

So, today is officially Bestie Day, according to my ladies at HelloGiggles .  I love my best friends.  A lot. I think every day should be Bestie Day, but I'm more than happy to take the time out today to tell those around me how much I love them.  I like to think of Bestie Day as a more realistic Valentine's Day.  The women in my life (for the most part) have been here for the better part of a decade.  The men in my life?  Not so much.

I will never be one of those women who gives up their friends for a relationship.  If my man can't get along with those around me, he can't be with me.  It's really that simple.  I'm sure some of you out there are saying "just you wait" so let me clarify.  My boyfriend/husband doesn't have to be in love with my friends.  That's my job.  He has to be nice to them.  And their significant others.  Agree to spend time with them.  And I will do the same for him.

It has always baffled me when I've witnessed a boyfriend/husband being rude to their girlfriend/wife's friends.  Like, I become irrationally angry.  I have been on the receiving end of this type of behavior.  It took every ounce of self-control, but I responded with kindness.  Not because I wanted to, of course, but because my friend was in love with this person.  And my momma raised me right.

This post is sort of all over the place.  Just go with it.  I'm trying to say that my friends are super important to me.  As I inch closer to finishing out my twenties, I rely on my friends in a way I never have before.  We have big girl problems.  College heartbreak and knockout drag out fights seem like child's play now.  If I can't call a girlfriend when I'm about to burst into tears before a first date, who can I call?  If I can't go sit on a girlfriend's couch at midnight on a Tuesday because my heart is broken, where can I go?  If I can't force a girlfriend to perform a mock interview on me, who can I force?  If a girlfriend doesn't tell me that my outfit makes me look like a stuffed sausage, who will?  Actually, my sister will so that one doesn't count, but you catch my drift, right?

Cherish your friends.  Support them.  Don't allow jealousy or competition to come before friendship.  There is enough success to go around.  There are enough fabulous men to go around.  I hope.  Otherwise, besties hold on to your men!


P.S.  Sorry Mom and Jackie, you guys are cool too.

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