Nobody likes a ranter. Myself included. In attempt to remain un-ranty, please excuse any run-on sentences or excessive use of commas. I want to take a moment to discuss the Grammy's. More specifically, I'd like to discuss the Chris Brown performance. I remember watching the red carpet coverage of the 2009 Grammy's (because clearly I have a life) and hearing Ryan Seacrest (or someone of that elk) looking confused and listening to the chatter going on inside their earpiece while announcing some "altercation" had occurred and both Rihanna and Chris Brown would not be appearing. As the evening progressed, more information became available and it became clear that Chris Brown had been arrested for assaulting Rihanna. I remember being shocked. And appalled.
Days later, the police photo was released and I audibly gasped at my desk at work. I just could not believe this singing, Michael Jackson-esque teenager was capable of such behavior. I mean, haven't you seen him moonwalk? My point is, I was completely irate. Rihanna represented a sort of cool, girl power. She was sexy and powerful and extremely famous. His subsequent childlike behavior and lack of any real apology sealed the coffin for me personally. You have to be a real asshole to beat your girlfriend; an extremely disturbed individual. Now, herein lies the double standard. If someone in the private sector, say your boss, was arrested for assaulting his girlfriend, would his lose his job? That is not a rhetorical question, I actually want to know. According to one legal mind I know, if you're an "at will" employee you can be fired for picking your nose. Those were his words (regarding a completely different legal situation), not mine. So my guess is that yes, you would lose your job most likely, if you held any sort of high responsibility position.
Why should it be any different for a singer? Posting an awkward half-assed apology online months after the incident should not suffice. Don't even get me started on The Good Morning America incident. Ripping your shirt off and throwing furniture? Child, please. He is going to be asked about the Rihanna incident for the rest of his career. Without a doubt. If he cannot handle it, than he should step out of the limelight. He was young when this happened, not even 20 years-old. I get that. Do you hold one mistake against someone for the rest of their life? Well, if you murder someone, than yes. Did he actually kill Rihanna? No. But, had she not escaped the attack (as it's written here), I have to wonder how far he would have taken it. If he throws a chair into a glass window, scaring producers of a morning news program, I would consider that violent behavior. He is a violent person, with no self control. He also happens to be a bad ass dancer, and relatively good singer. Unfortunately, the whole scary, girlfriend beater, beats out the twinkle toes affect. At least for me.
I think allowing him to perform at the Grammy's sends a dangerous message to women. That was the whole point of the previous paragraphs. Love shouldn't hurt. That is not the title of a cheesy Lifetime movie. Actually, it might be, but whatever you know what I mean. People who use physical violence in a relationship need help. It's as simple as that. Dancing around on stage isn't therapy. Picking up garbage for 500 hours or whatever his relaxed sentence was does not "cure" the illness. Instead of acting like a petulant child who is owed something, maybe he should consider answering the questions being asked of him and showing that he is truly sorry and has learned something. Or he could throw some more furniture.