Wednesday, June 20, 2012

On the BackBurner

I was just catching up on a few of my favorite blogs and one mentioned being "backburnered." What is backburner-ing, you might ask?  Well, it's being kept in the background.  This can happen in all types of relationships (platonic and otherwise).  Someone who is slightly out of reach will keep calling/texting/emailing/ghcatting you without making any real commitment and/or plans with you. It's similar to being the "in between" person.  The person used for fun in between relationships or when no other friends are available is usually the last to know.  Sometimes we don't want to see a situation for what it really is - nothing.

 There is a difference between having drinks and/or sleeping with someone every once in a while and being their girlfriend.  If I've said this once, I'll say it a million more times: DO NOT SETTLE.  Why anyone would let someone they barely know treat them like shit is beyond me.  I think the past year has sort of blown my mind in many ways.  I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak.  I can't seem to sit back and enjoy a situation for what it is at any given moment.  And for that I only have myself to blame.  This is directed at myself as much as to anyone else, but sit back, relax, and enjoy!  Stop over-analyzing.  Just stop it.

This is an excerpt from a great article on Thought Catalog

“He’s shy.” That’s fine. Shy guys still have a voicebox to say, “I like you” and fingers that can pick up a phone. “That’s not his style.” Sharing his thoughts with another human being isn’t his style? Is that a quality you’re looking for in a partner? “He likes being single.” The number of bad boys and perpetually single guys I’ve seen do a complete 180 when they’ve met the right girl is mind-numbingly high.



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