The other night I was having dinner with one of my best friends and our talk turned (shockingly) away from men and towards what makes someone interesting. What do you really, really like to do with your free time? There are some people who simply cannot sit still. In fact, I've lived with a few of these people -- always wandering around the apartment doing something. I definitely do not fall into that category. Quiet downtime is a necessity for me to behave like a normal human.
In college, it seemed like my interests were reading/writing about political science, tasting new alcoholic beverages, having crushes on blond boys from central Pennsylvania, and attempting to get out of most sorority duties. My saving grace was watching CNN every night before bed in order to feel like a "real adult." Looking back, I wish I would have spread my wings a bit more and got involved in other groups. Don't get me wrong, I love my friends, but I was very overwhelmed and didn't really know where to begin.
Fast forward several years and there is so much more I am curious about. I know I'm a political nerd and I don't care what anyone thinks about it. I started a blog way before it was "cool" and wrote about my weight and body image, which is pretty much the least sexy topic on the planet. I devour new music like a crazy person. As I near the end of my twenties (oy) I have come to realize what attracts me to a person -- far more than looks -- is curiosity. What do you think about the world? What can you teach me? What can I teach you? Force me out of my comfort zone a bit and I'm putty in your hands (pretty much literally).
There's an old saying that goes something like "ambition is sexy" Or not. If there isn't there should be. I digress. I am fascinated by people who are completely brave and go for what they want. Simply put, envelope-pushers are a relatively new phenomenon for me. I began to encounter them mostly in my twenties when I found myself sort of lost. Being lost allowed me to develop some of my best traits (tooting my horn here). Knowing what I don't know and asking a painful (for some) amount of questions had led me towards some really innovative thinkers.
Oddly enough, this discovery had led to an unexpected problem. I find a lot of men in the dating pool to be sort of eh. I need to sit across the table from someone who is passionate about something -- anything. The most important lesson in all of this, is that I need to run towards the stuff that interests me. We can't worry that the people we think we are *supposed* to be dating won't think it's cool. All I'm trying to say is, do you.